Attracting the Fairer Sex

I understand how lousy it feels to get rejected when attempting to attract women. Attracting the fairer sex is not easy for most guys, especially when they try too hard.

The funny opener that you worked up the guts to try on that wonderful female got shot down but take heart in knowing that you are not alone. It's even harder to rally the detachment and not wonder what went wrong afterwords.

Yes indeed, a little humiliation keeps us in check so that we don't think more of ourselves than we should, rejection shouldn't bother you. I'm sure you have the common sense to stop pursuing that woman if she is simply feeding off your crushed ego. Then again, common sense isn't so common these days, is it?

The kind of woman you want to attract will determine what works and what doesn't work. If you are looking for a naughty girl then this advice may not be right for you. However, if you're looking for one that you can have a lasting and meaningful relationship with than keep reading.

Get this, there is no room for resentment when it comes to attracting the fairer sex.  Girls like men who are fun, straightforward and enjoyable to be around.  Playing the game with a chip on your shoulder is a guaranteed formula for a crash and burn. Keep this in mind, you shouldn't be angry that you have to adopt certain mindsets and attitudes in order to push the correct buttons. Accept the fact that you're going to have to understand the patterns that are presented in a romantic courtship.

For example, traditionally it has been the obligation of the male to pursue a girl in order to win her interest and attraction.  The reality that girls use this as a form of power is a constant source of frustration to many guys but I'm telling you now that you shouldn't let it get to you.  Learn how to play the game if you really want a significant female relationship.

It's all a matter of social dynamics, so you should familiarize yourself with some basic truths to attracting beautiful women. Let's be honest, many women are attracted to guys who are loaded and material wise.  I'm not saying that they're materialistic but being rather productive is a quality that women look for in a man.

Girls are after that particular trait where a man is able to get it together and take control of how he runs his life.  Specifically, they want a man who has a clear life direction with the courage and passion to achieve a goal. In short, being wealthy definitely helps but you'll never find a meaningful relationship with that in its self.
While you may temporarily dazzle a girl with your flashy jewelry and fast cars, she'll see past the smoke and mirrors soon enough.  You'll have to include some key attributes to create a truly lasting effect on her.

• Make her feel safe and gain her trust
• Become good at flirting
• Use your humor
• You're comfortable with yourself
• Treat her as an equal

One of the major challenges to having successful interactions with women is to make them feel safe.  You'll have to offer her a sense of security to open her thoughts to the possibility of becoming romantic with you in the future.

Flirting with some added humor is a great way of cutting through those defensive layers most women have.  A man who's acquainted through study or experience at being light hearted and playful demonstrates that he's at ease with women and more importantly, with himself. The ability to joke around with a girl says to her, you're not at all anxious of how she'll respond.  Mainly, you're testing the waters and of course you shouldn't look like you are.

Women want self-confidence in a man that is drawn from the fact that she is not superior to you. Even if she's incredibly good looking, placing yourself below her is like begging to be viewed as just another Joe. It sounds like the easiest thing to avoid but it's actually not that hard to make her respect you less. It is important to grovel over her and remind her of how beautiful she is on occasion but lets not over do it. Of course she's attractive to you, why else would you bother coming over to her?  Stating the obvious simply can be a good opening line for an informal exchange of views, ideas or information.

If you are a guy that freezes in front of women and doesn't know what to say or how to make a good first impression, you should check out Conversation Chemistry

5 Dazzling Ways To Attract Woman

Image by neuroticcamel via Flickr"I don't get it! I've a nice car. I'm accomplished. My A-list resume makes the next guy look ridiculous. I even wear the latest Armani! Why aren't women attracted to me? Why am I still alone?" If you're still alone, keep reading.

Are you puzzled over the fact that seemingly ordinary dudes have incredible success in their dating lives? If so, maybe I can help you to unlock the secrets behind tapping into your innate masculinity that's just waiting to be let loose... keep reading.

The path to romanticism is littered with unrealized expectations and unanswered love. If you think you're alone in your loneliness, think again. There is enough pounding on dashboards out there to start a global orchestra of dreadful distress.

Hey, don't despair. Before you spin out of control, make use of the airbags fast. These ideas for attaining your particular goal should bring you back on track:

• Dress for the occasion at all times: The intention is not to wear that $2000 suit to the grocery store or the Rolex to walk the dog. What I mean by this is to dress decently each time you hit the streets. Dab on some cologne and remain neatly shaven. Dude, women are everywhere. If you dress with flash only at the bar or your friend's party, you're missing out on 90% of eligible women. Some of the best relationships are formed during chance encounters when least expected. Mark, a friend of mine reluctantly was helping an acquaintance move into a new apartment when he met a woman who is now his fiancé.
• Bedroom Eyes: When exploring new relationships with that sexy stranger intensify the eye contact. Lock deep into her pupils. Let the rest of the world disappear even as a swarm of foxes pass by. You will naturally thrill her with the attention as she experiences the growing attraction. Science has a term for this, the coital gaze. Make your eyes even sexier by enlarging your pupils. Dr. Hess concluded that dilated pupils are far more attractive to women after he presented hundreds of assorted pictures of men to test subjects. How can you get your pupils popping without smoking a jay or downing a pill? Simply gaze at the most alluring parts of her face and fill your mind with loving caring thoughts. Your pupils will naturally grow, giving you the quality of irresistible eyes.
• Visual Caress: Make your eyes do some facial moving as you chat. Keep your eyes present a bit on the nose, move across the eyes and rest at the lips. Take in her facial features as though you were admiring the Mona Lisa. She will find pleasure in the attention!
• Confection: Stumped at having nothing to say? Listen carefully for confection as you talk. These are unusual sweet words or phrases that she utters. When you hear the sympathetic awe... You're on to something and ask her to elaborate on it. Say "How do you feel about that?" Women love to be probed for their opinions and their feelings. Gently bring out her emotions with sensitive open-ended questions.
• The Adrenaline Charge: Men talk about facts like sales figures, percentages and boring technical stuff. Women are different. They delight in intuitive feeling talk such as who did what and why, how that special meal got them all giddy with overwhelming emotion and how their shopping excursions help them forget their biggest problems. Leverage this by steering clear of facts talk. Pick out emotionally charged subjects like reality TV or social issues and ask her how she particularly relates to them. You'll be her new confidant!

I know what you're thinking. It's all common sense! That's true, but ask yourself this... How many of you actually put this to practice? Be frank. Get out of the grandstands and be the man women love. Use your common sense!

Does Your Confidence Fall to Pieces Around Beautiful Women?

If you're confident in your career ... confident on the sports field... and confident with your friends ... why can't you be confident with woman?

Let's face it. One of the scariest things about women is the fact that they're female. They're like an alien species to some guys.

So how do you feel confident around women, when you don't have a clue what makes them tick?

Focus on Your Similarities, Not Your Differences

Women, like you, are afraid of being rejected, hurt or alone. By relating to women on terms that you understand, you give women the impression that you truly see them at their deepest levels ... which is much more appealing than giving off the feeling that women leave you clueless!

The next time you see a woman who's spectacularly gorgeous, don't give into the temptation of thinking that she's a creature from Venus, without any of the same needs that mortals have. Nothing inherently makes her a higher-ranking being to you.

It's amazing how your perspective will change once you see the human being beneath the beautiful window dressing. You'll lose your fear of talking to her. You'll understand more intuitively how to associate with her. So, focus on what makes you alike rather than what makes you different.

Understand That They're Playing the Game Too

If you take women at face value, then you're going omit an entire level of communication that could give you valuable insights into what's really going on.

When women are in situations where they may be approached by men, they take on a completely different character. They know that their sexuality gives them an edge and they also know that being a challenge is more exciting than being easy. As a result, they act in artificial ways.

Women aren't going to help you out by making it easy for you to chat with them or become vivid physically. So don't take their behavior personally. Wherever possible, bring them out of the game-playing environment such as a bar or club and into an environment where they feel relaxed and less defensive. You may find that a woman's personality changes completely when she's not warding off men.

So remember, to a woman you're just another guy trying to get into her pants until you prove yourself otherwise. So don't get stressed if she's rude to you, it's not you personally she's reacting to but just your default status as a male.

Confidence is one of the most important traits that a man must have when it comes to attracting beautiful women. If you're struggling with achieving the results you want in life, whether it's in your career, in your social life or in your personal life - then look at what Supreme Self-Confidence can do for you.

How to Approach Women Using Humor

I'll let you in on a little secret… you can approach women using humor and relieve any tension that may exist. Men that can make women laugh are truely irresistible. The same can be said about women who make men laugh. You already know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right? You want to approach a certain female because you find her beautiful. She caught your eye, so now how can you approach her without the fear of rejection? Use humor.

It's impossible for women to dislike a guy who can make her laugh. You don't have to be concerned if you don't have what it takes to be humorous. Because, the good news is that you can develop the power of  humor and use it to win the heart of the woman you desire.

Would you like to know a popular myth about humor that many folks actually believe? Here it is, "Humor is a natural gift". Sure, some guys grow up in an environment that produces humor skill (peers, teachers, relatives) but they're not born with the ability to make woman laugh. Somewhere along the line they learned how to do this.

We're so used to dialects, implications and interpretation that we often overlook ways to "take advantage of" the everyday language we speak. In fact, there's something common about all languages, which you can use to make women laugh.

An interesting aspect of every language is the extension of the vocabulary’s literal meanings. For instance, let's take a look at the preposition “in”. When she asks you to join her in a cup of hot chocolate you can reply, “sure, if the cup is big enough for the both of us.” Or if she says, “Today I talked to Bob in my pj'ses.” You can ask her, “How did he get in your pj'ses?”

Another example is exaggeration, it's one of the most effective methods to make girl laugh. Exaggeration is particularly relevant whenever a female makes an exclamation about something. She might say, "Oh, your house is so big!" you can reply by saying, "Yeah, I know... Would you like to call a taxi to go to my bedroom?"

There is also the understatement, which is a useful technique many men overlook. If she were to ask you, "what do you think of Donald Trump", your answer, "Who's he? He can't be as poor as I am, right?" That is an understatement. The more your statements turn away from the "standard" ones, the funnier they'll sound.

You can benefit extremely when you make women laugh. Humor is the shortcut to attraction. If you'd like to discover more techniques like the above, order your own copy of "Make Women Laugh" and start to approach women using the power of humor.

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Traits That Attract Women

Men are more attracted to physical traits but women are more attracted to personality traits. There’s an interesting statistic that tells us about traits that attract women. An experimental study by top dating experts found that 38% of women prefer nice guys, 15% prefer bad guys, and 34% prefer a blend of both.
Did you hear that last number? A good 1/3 of women don’t want guys who are 100% good or 100% bad. 34% want a guy who’s got a little good, and a little bad, in him. The good part in him makes him treat her well and shower her with affection. The bad part in him makes him exciting, dangerous, and powerful.
Nice guys can learn a few things from bastards. The reason many women shy away from guys who seem too nice is that they don’t want a guy who’ll be submissive, clingy, and dependent.
The bastard knows how to play a women’s heart like a violin. The nice guy on the other hand, often doesn’t make a girl feel much of anything. The nice guy engages in a nice, polite, intellectual conversation with a girl and she’s left with the impression that he’s a nice guy. Well, nice guys are just that, nice guys. How can we expect women to get excited by a guy who doesn’t ooze out passion and entrancement? Politeness is a good quality, but it isn’t a turn-on.
So what can you do to prove that you’re not a complete doormat (too nice of a guy) but also not a wild psychotic who’s going to land himself in jail? Here are a few tips.

Get Physical                                                                                      
By this I mean... Join a gym and get yourself in shape, she’ll assume that you’re the kind of guy who could protect her in a pinch.
Make Her Feel Safe
Doing the little things for her, like walking on the part of the sidewalk between her and the street, or keeping an eye open for anything potentially dangerous. Stand up for her immediately when anyone attacks her verbally or physically, she’ll learn to trust that you, indeed, have a bad guy within you ready to stand up for her and defend her if necessary. Be the guy who straps her in her seatbelt on the roller coaster, or who offers a hand so that she doesn’t trip. Trust is built upon these actions.
Play on Her Wild Side
Listen up, in order to be successful with beautiful women it takes the kind of attitude that isn’t afraid of risks. If you’re always concerned about being politically correct, perfectly polite, and the kind of gentleman she’d introduce to her parents, you’ll see girls slip through your fingers time and time again. Be a little outrageous. Flirt with her shamelessly. Let her know that you find her sexually attractive. Drop hints that will intrigue her. Say something risqué, and grin when her mouth drops. They may act shocked, even offended, but believe me they love it when you tease.
Develop a Winning Mental State of Mind
This can’t be emphasized enough because it's crucial to have a positive, confident attitude. Don’t confuse confidence with arrogance. Confidence means having a freedom from doubt, a belief in yourself and your abilities. Arrogance on the other hand is when you’re full of overbearing pride and tend to look down on others as inferiors.
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Once you work on these traits that attract women. Such as working out, be her protector, stand up for yourself and develop that attitude that says you’ve got the ability to do whatever you want. You’ll attract women in no time!
2 Tips to Remember When You Get Noticed by Girls
1. Follow up. If you ask a woman to go home with you and she declines, she may not be rejecting you; she may just be one of those women who has a policy of not going home with a stranger. So make a follow-up offer. See if her friends are hungry, and suggest that you all go out to a 24-hour diner. Ask her if she turns back into a hideous hag at dawn and give her a piece of paper to write her phone number down on so she can prove she's real. The idea here is to suggest that you're interested in her rather than the prospect of getting somewhere with her.
2. Don't be afraid to look. Whether you're shy or embarrassed. You don't want to be caught staring. Staring will make her feel as though she's being stalked. You have no excuse not to catch an attractive woman's eye. Yeah, she may not think you're her type, but how will you know unless you risk it? You don't want to be staring at women, but glancing around and appreciating what you see isn't a crime.
PS. Have you heard about the 5 myths that prevent guys from becoming great lovers?
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4 Body Language Basics To Attract Beautiful Women

What's worse than the inability to get that beautiful women you've had your eye on to go out with you? It's when she actually goes out with you only to say, "Thanks, but no thanks" to the idea of going on a second date.

Body language is very important if you ever wish to attract hotter woman. According to several studies done by privet firms and universities, more than 50% of your communication comes from your body language and what that means is… What you don’t say still says a lot. Less then 40% of your communication comes from what you do say.

What does this mean for you?

It is as important initially to pay careful attention to how you say things, how you stand and how you act than it is to what you say. And that’s just for starters!
Listen, you could have the best game in the world and have the ability to attract any woman. For example online, but if you used those same successful techniques in the real world and lack obvious confidence, eye contact etc… You will merely crash and burn.

Honestly, body language is so important when it comes to attracting women.

Let's cover the basics and just to let you know, it gets better as we go to the advanced stuff but that’s beyond the scope of this article. If you want more advanced detail concerning body language you can check out this site at:
Attract Hotter Women

Body language basics 101:

1. Smile

You have to make females feel at ease, comfortable that you are a friendly, fun guy. Particularly when talking to her for the first time. Also, you should give her the impression that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works, in fact if you ever come across an “Ice Queen” and you can tell that she is about to give you the snuff, give her a big smile. She’ll most likely still give you the cold shoulder but your smile might warm her up for the second encounter.

Practice smiling at random people, you’ll be surprised by how many people smile back and at how many doors this will open for you. Smiling works, just make sure it’s a genuine smile.

2. Eye contact

As you probably know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s chest. It makes you just like all the other guys who have drooled over her. So make eye contact. When breaking eye contact, look to the left, right or passed her. Anywhere but down. There is one exception however, if you are going to compliment her on what she’s wearing, just glance down and back up. Remember no staring. She might wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your attention because now you’ve sparked her curiosity.

When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too much because it can be daunting. 70% is good for eye contact while you’re talking this usually is comfortable for most women. Don’t stare like a head case blink as you would naturally. If you naturally look away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people. People say that the eyes are the window into the soul. I think there is some truth to that.

3. Good posture

Most women really do prefer men with straight, upright posture. Good posture says to a woman… you are confident, healthy and might even have some class. It’s just generally more attractive and says lots about you. Not to mention the fact that it’s good for your back.
Get into the habit of having an upright posture.

4. Gesture with open palms

Studies of body language have shown that this is a good one to use in many circumstances…

Not only that, this gesture can be used when talking to a woman and trying to make a point that puts you in a positive light or when you’re defending yourself.

For example, a female suggests you might be a player. Talk while using your hands with open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.

It works very well on a subconscious level to suggest you are being honest and telling the truth. If you want a woman to trust you, give her reason to think you are being straight with her, this is important.
This open palm gesture works best when combined with a smile. It’s effective.

Those are some basics of positive body language to attract hotter women, if you'd like to learn more, visit Tiffany Taylor's site: ==>How to Attract Women

Never before has a woman thrown out the rule book and exposed every last intimate secret about what it takes to attract women... And here she is, exposing her own thoughts and what exactly to say and do to improve your love life. In fact, Tiffany has been under increasing pressure from women who want this book taken out of circulation.

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